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Listen: You Are What You Surround Yourself With.

Transcipt: This is Twister. I’m here with you today on Revel and Write On to explore ways to care for your emotional and mental wellbeing.

Mental and emotional health is an essential part of your overall health and wellbeing. Managing emotions and maintaining emotional balance is an important skill. When you manage your emotional health, it helps you face challenges and stress. Lack of emotional regulation skills can lead to poor mental health and difficulty in relationships.

It is as essential to care for your mental health to care for your physical health. You can stay healthy by eating well, getting adequate rest and exercise. Eating fresh foods rich in vitamin B-12 and Omega 3 fatty acids keeps up mood-regulating chemicals in the brain. Getting enough rest for your body helps heal its daily wear and tear, while lack of sleep can make you feel tired, stressed and cranky.

Mindfulness simply means being in the present without thinking of the past or future. Mindfulness is choosing what you respond to, rather than getting carried away with everything that appears in your mind or your experience; to focus on one thing at a time, be non-judgmental and cultivate an attitude of impermanence towards things and situations. This helps you stay open to experiences and refrains you from getting overly affected by them.

Tip-mindfulness can be achieved through meditation. Start meditating, journal it and see the results for yourself.

Manage your stress. You, just like everyone else, have specific triggers that stress you. Where possible, avoid a stressful situation, but when you have to face a stress-inducing event or person, you need to find a way to cope with it. If an exam stresses you, learn how to put exams in perspective and not let them become life-defining events for you. In some cases, avoiding stress-generating situations may work, but you must be able to differentiate between when you can avoid them and when you cannot. So, find your strategy to manage your stress so that you can take better care of yourself. 

Tip-whenever you feel stressed, talk to a friend. Reappraise or reinterpreting your situation. Meditate. Go for a walk, listening to music, exercise, and most importantly, write and reflect on your emotions and feelings. Studies show that being grateful for what you have helps you stay optimistic about your future and boosts your mental health.

Poorly managed or unregulated emotions can be harmful to your mental health. You may shy away from expressing emotions or feelings that you deem to be negative. Being able to describe what you are feeling, what you like or don’t like, can help you to de-clutter your mind. Suppressing emotions have been proven to lead to depression or anxiety disorders. 

Self-love is the key. For many, the concept of self-love might conjure images of tree-hugging hippies or cheesy self-help books. But, as many psychology studies attest, self-love and -compassion are critical for wellbeing, and it aides in keeping depression and anxiety at bay.

“Why is self-love important?” you might ask. For many of us, self-love might sound like a luxury rather than a necessity — or a new-age fad for those with too much time on their hands.

Ironically, however, self-care and self-compassion are actually needed most by those who work too hard and constantly strive to surpass ourselves and grasp the shape-shifting phantasm of perfection.

Most of the time, when we’re being too hard on ourselves, we do it because we’re driven by a desire to excel and do everything right, all the time. This entails many self-criticisms, and that persecutory inner voice that constantly tells us how we could’ve done things better is a hallmark of perfectionism.

Studies have shown that perfectionists are at a higher risk of several illnesses, both physical and mental and that self-compassion might free us from its grip. Therefore, perfectionism and self-compassion are inextricably linked.

Tip-sit down with a piece of paper. What are your feelings right now? How could you express it on a page? Would they be words or pictures? Would you use colours?

You are what you surround yourself with. Say Goodbye to the “Negative Nellies” Yes, those folks who are constantly in turmoil or have serious drama. Far worse is that they can’t help but try to bring you down right along with them.

Tip– If you want to become your best self, I challenge you to review, rethink, and cull through your social media and real-life “friends” and find the right people and media content that will actually help you get there.

Finally, Listen to yourself.

When was the last time you listened to yourself?

That is, when was the last time you checked in with your thoughts and feelings? When was the last time you expressed an opinion? When was the last time you considered your needs and actually met them?

When was the last time you said yes and actually meant it—you genuinely wanted to attend that get-together or take on that project or do that favour? One helpful strategy when journaling is to keep a record of when words match your actions. For example, if you say yes to an invite, are you eager to show up, or do you find yourself dragging your feet? Other clues that you’re not listening or honouring your own boundaries are feeling resentful, irritable, or uninterested.

Journaling has terrific benefits. Writing helps you connect with what’s really going on, not just in your mind but in your life! Rather than just keeping your thoughts in your head, writing them down makes them easier to understand. Journaling will help you work through your feelings, process ideas and set goals. If you need guidance in getting started, visit www.revel.sg where you will experience a curation of science and psychology-backed products specifically designed and created to assist you in nourishing your mind, body and soul.

Thanks for joining me today. I hope you found this episode helpful. This is Twister signing off for today. Keep writing, and stay safe.